TWO FORKS

The healers gift is her own wound. It's the source of her empathy and compassion.

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I come from a family of perfectionists and my friends from NY encouraged me to share a lesson I learned about my own perfectionist tendencies here on the island... after they laughed their heads off listening to me... so I'm not sure if it's a better story told verbally... but here it goes ✨

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Last month I arrived at my friends house to celebrate her sons 6th birthday and when I walked in I found her putting food out for guests. I offered to help her so she gave me the easiest task - separate the utensils and put them into cups.

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I put the knives in one cup, the spoons in the other and when I got to the forks... there were only two on the table. So I looked around but I couldn't find the box of utensils.

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When she came back I sighed a breath of relief and was like "Where are the forks? There's only two here." But as soon as she looked over at the table... I started to panic.

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With a smile and a shrug she said, "Those are the only two I have left but I'm not really worried about it," and proceeded to leave so she could greet new guests.

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As soon as she turned away I looked down at the forks and went into perfectionist mode for the next 60 seconds. OMG what are people going to eat with?!? Should I go out to the store for her? What if they don't have the same forks? 😭 We can't have mismatched utensils 😩

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And before I could even make a decision, everyone started to arrive and lined up for food. As I watched people grab their plate, I learned a pretty amazing lesson... NO ONE CARED ABOUT THE FORKS. Literally no one cared. They just ate with spoons and enjoyed their meal 😮

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It was so simple and yet the experience made a huge impact. To think that I almost went into town just to buy matching forks for my friends sons party when spoons were perfectly acceptable to everyone here. I felt relieved, happy and grateful to have experienced that because life goes on even if you only have TWO forks. And yes, now you can laugh your heads off too. I'm working towards "progress not perfection" on the island and it's super healing! Signed the recovering perfectionist. 😇❤✨

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